What is the question you were asked most frequently before the age of eighteen?

For me, and for almost everyone I know, it went something like this …

“so, Beth, what do you want to be when you grow up?”

At age forty, I wonder why people have stopped asking that question.

For those of you who know I stand at five feet small, you know I haven’t grown much taller since sixth grade, of course (:

…but, aren’t we all continuing to grow and evolve as human beings, throughout our life journeys?

As a life coach, so many people come to me ready for MORE in their lives. And while they don’t always know what “more” means, they are very much in tune with the fact that they have lost their spark, their joy – that sense of wonder that comes so effortlessly to us when we are children - when we believe that we can be whatever we want to be, in every stage of life.

One day when I was outside sledding with my kids, I was asking them what they envision for their lives. My older son, who is known for his unique ability to reciprocate in every conversation, posed the question back to me. “What about you, mom?” In that moment, I realized something. Some of the wonder and the joy that we experience in life comes from believing deeply that we can continue to grow, evolve, write and rewrite our life scripts, just as our kids do when people ask them about their future plans.

As children, when someone asks us what we want to be when we grow up, we are receiving the message that we can always keep dreaming and always keep aspiring to be something we haven’t yet become. In that moment, childlike wonder comes to life. But somewhere along the way, people stop asking us that question, assuming we are “grown-ups” and have already landed wherever we want to be. However, most of us still have many things we want to be or do, and would love nothing more than to share those thoughts and make them reality. But often, we keep them to ourselves, squelching our own dreams or letting fear or perceptions of others get in the way. So we keep on keeping on, and end up disillusioned or disconnected, which is just so very sad to me.

We all deserve to tap into that wonder we experience as children, when we feel on top of the world – when potential is limitless and the possibilities are endless – when we feel like we can carve out WHATEVER path we want in life.

And, why not? Why not assume that we can continue crafting our life script, with brand new chapters and stories that we write for ourselves?  That’s what coaching is about. It gives people a safe space to explore exactly what they want more of, and how they are going to get where they wish to go.

As we begin our journey into springtime, may it be a time of rebirth for all of you, my friends – a time when you can ask yourself not what you want to be when you grow up, but what you most envision for the next season of your life - when you reflect on the fact that we are always growing and changing, and that is something beautiful to embrace wholeheartedly.

Marybeth Cale is a publicist and life coach who works with clients to promote greater success and satisfaction in business and in life. Call 845.876.2220 to get started with confidential coaching designed to move your life forward.

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08/02/2015 6:42am

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